Last week a young girl I never met lost her life and sadly it happens everyday, someone looses a daughter, son, sister, brother, mother, father or a friend. You hear about tragedies daily, and almost become immune to it unless it’s someone close to you.
This one wasn’t the same for some reason though, even though I never met her it has stuck with me, a little close to home maybe? At the same age I was doing the same thing, driving the same roads.
When someone dies it always raises so many questions for me. Maybe it’s the ingrained over thinker. Who gets to choose?
Why her? Why isn’t she still here?
Why me? Why am I still here?
I read somewhere that a wife or husband who looses a spouse is a widow or widower. A child who looses a parent is an orphan. A parent that looses a child doesn’t have a name! Why? Because it’s not supposed to happen. No matter your age your children are NOT meant to die before you.
Unsplash – Sandy Millar
Tell those close to you why you love them while you can. Don’t wait until their funerals. I’m not hugger or one to dish our huge sentiment face to face. I’m working on it though. I hope you all know how much you mean to me. #sayitnow
To my mum, I am who I am because of you, sometimes a little too brassy but you raised a fighter. I know it wasn’t always easy for you but you did it and have 3 kids who are productive members of society. Thanks for being there when I need you.
To my Dad, we don’t always see eye to eye but I love laughing with you and I know your proud of me. Your very good at delivering positive feedback and staying out of drama.
To my step dad thanks for being the dad, my dad isn’t. You fill in the gaps perfectly and the kids adore you.
My brothers, You work hard for your families and I wish you, your kids and your wives all the happiness in the world. I hope all your dreams come true. Focus on the positives and let shit go! (Something we all need to work on) Even though we are miles apart I enjoy watching your families grow.
To my step siblings. We aren’t close but I think of you all often and wish you all well.
To my kids and step kids. You are all beautiful, inside and out. Keep working on that. Don’t do things because you might get something out of it. Do it because someone else might get something out of it. Hard work will ALWAYS pay off, even if it doesn’t seem like it at first. If you mess up accept accountability apologies and work towards fixing it. Stand up for yourselves, what you believe in and each other. Love hard and hug often. Always remember “Boyfriends and Girlfriends will come and go but siblings are forever!” Take care of each other. I’m proud of you!
My Dearest husband. My right hand. My team mate and my best friend. I need you! I love you! I’m proud of you! I appreciate you! Your also an amazing dad to your kids then added mine also. Taking on someone else’s kids, physically, emotionally and financially is a huge job and you’ve taken it in your stride. We owe you the world. Just in case you missed it at the start. I love you.
Send that text, make that call, give the compliment and say it NOW! Remember tomorrow isn’t promised.
Unsplash-Steve Halama
-Bec
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