I’m not sure if the digital age has magnified this issue by thrusting it in my face more or if it’s an age old argument that I’m just a bit slow to jump on. Who knows. Either way, I’m sure my perspective on things will upset a few people and I’m ok with that. At the end of the day remember my disclaimer, anything you read written by me is about me so may not suit or mirror your life.
I’m sick to death about women whinging that they are going alone! Maybe I’m one of the lucky ones because in my old life, I WAS the one whinging and I WAS going it alone! Maybe I now appreciate it more? I’m not talking about the single mums or the mums who were like me. I’m talking about the mums who have a distorted sense of reality. The ones who think they have it way worse than they actually do.
When I say mums who were like me, this is what I’m talking about. I’m referring to my first husband who didn’t help with the kids OR the housework…… EVER!! He just whinged about what I wasn’t getting done and never noticed what I was. I’m not taking about when he was working, I’m taking about days off, holidays and weekends he NEVER stepped up and helped. When I went back to work full time, about 3 weeks after having my third baby when I didn’t have a nanny or it was her RDO I worked while all three kids aged under 5 hung off me. What we he doing, I hear you ask. Working? Haha haha. Your hilarious, 98% of the time he was drinking or fishing or both and as far away from me and the kids as possible.
Fast forward almost 10 years to today! Today I had 6 kids with me, we went to Bunnings craft after breakfast they loved it as always. Where was hubby. MIA.
I then dropped Bunnings purchases to hubby. Carted 6 kids home again where I proceeded to mow and water the lawn. Hang washing. Cook lunch. Vacuum and mop. Put dinner on and wash the lunch dishes. 
Where was hubby? Again MIA. I did it on my own, with a little help from the kids.
Now here people is the shift in perspective that I BEG you to see. I NEED you to see. For the sake of your sanity, happiness and your marriages. I was NOT in fact doing on my own! Hubby wasn’t infact MIA. He was working, yes you heard it he too was working, just as hard if not harder than me. Just not at home today.
We are self employed and he doesn’t stop. He never stops. Almost every weekend since Australia Day he’s been working on his truck. To make his life easier and our business bigger and better. Today he said he’d be home for lunch and he would relax this afternoon. It’s now 3pm and his lunch that he didn’t cook is waiting for him in the oven. WHY? Because he is STILL WORKING!
Please see your relationship as a team effort. Just because you can’t see it, doesn’t mean it isn’t happening.
#teamworkmakesthedreamwork
-Bec
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