When Darcy and I first started dating we had 8 kids under nine. Yes you read that correctly, 8 kids aged 9 and under. We were both finding our feet with our huge brood and new roles. It was busy, tiring and due to various reasons beyond our control, at most times – stressful. Remember “it won’t be like this for long”. I won’t forget to mention the fun, laughter and the noise. Sooooo much noise! When the last of the kids are all moved out, after all the years of telling them to shhhhh, that is what we will miss the most. The noise.
Professional photos 2014
In the beginning so many people were so negative about everything but we all took the transition in our stride. Including the kids. I asked them recently one thing they remember about the early days and looking back on it they all have fond memories, not horrid ones. Even though the whole process wasn’t 100% perfect, they’ve retained the good memories not the bad ones. So even though we went in completely blind, we must have been doing something right.
Easter 2018
We decided early on that 8 kids was more than enough for us and we didn’t need or want an “oops” so we were careful. After 2 years of dating we wanted a more permanent solution so I got my tubes tied in 2015. We were both happy with our decision and convinced that we were done. We enjoyed our 5 weeks completely kid free, and having an “Ours” would change that.
Kid Free Time – 2013
Fast forward to 2019, we’ve moved house and got married, built up our business and are busier than ever. Not only are all the kids at school now, we have the majority of them in middle and high school. A couple of our kids even have part time jobs. It’s amazing how much can change in a 6 year period. We also don’t get our 5 weeks kid free anymore, due to some percentage of care changes but we are ok with that.
December 2017
Back to my original story, I did have a point here. After several years of female issues, doctors appointments and trial and error I made enquires about getting a hysterectomy. I was completely sure we were done. A partial hysterectomy would mean that everything except my ovaries would be removed. Stopping all cycles without thrusting me into early menopause. Honestly, wouldn’t want to miss that opportunity now would we. I had the referrals, I had the appointment. HELL I even had an operation date. Then it happened…… the doubt, the melt down, the tears! We don’t have an Ours, should we have one TOGETHER? I think I want a baby. I sat on it for a week before i told Darcy how I was feeling. I wrote about it here, and one of you even encouraged “You don’t ever regret the kids you do have, just the ones you don’t.”
Sooooo after 3 months, lots of deliberations, a family meeting, a doctors appointment, a million questions and a few tests for both of us I was booked in and had a tubal ligation REVERSAL! They managed to re-attach my left tube successfully and we now have a 70% chance of conceiving naturally.
Post Op – June 2019
So watch this space, follow our journey and cross your fingers as we try and add to 3plus5!
-Bec
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